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How To Move On From One-Sided Love

About 2 years back I was a person who was suffering for one sided love. All I wanted was that guy and tried my best to get him but due to some misunderstandings everything went wrong. There is always a time in everyone’s life in which he or she has to suffer from one sided love.

As human beings, we all have the ability to recover, renew our spirits, and help ourselves get out of this miserable situation.  Learning how to get over an ex and move on can help you feel stronger, more independent, and ready to meet someone who will offer you mutual happiness. So here are some of the tips which could help in getting move on.

1. Recognize what’s going on.

Recognize what’s going on.

 

  • Are you always the one to say “I love you” first?
  • Do you generally have to be the one to suggest that the two of you spend time together?
  • Are you usually the one doing sweet things for your significant other, while she rarely seems to think of you?

2. Acknowledge the problems.

 Acknowledge the problems. 

Many people lie to themselves during or after an unhealthy relationship. They try to convince themselves that things were generally good, that the person did actually care for them, and they may wonder whether it was a mistake to end the relationship. However, there absolutely is a reason you ended the relationship. And even if some parts of that relationship were comforting or pleasant, that does not justify or excuse the bad times.

  • Any time you find yourself questioning whether it was right to end the relationship, think back to the things that made you so unhappy. Deep down you will probably recognize that you could not realistically live with those unpleasant qualities, such as a lack of emotion or support.

 

3.  It’s ok to be upset while in love.

Allow yourself to be upset.

 It’s okay to feel distressed after ending a relationship, especially one in which you were not cared for or respected. You may be feeling sad and lonely, or you may be feeling stronger emotions like worthlessness or self-doubt. It’s perfectly okay to feel these things after ending a relationship, and it’s healthy to mourn the loss of the relationship, but it’s important that you don’t believe any the self-doubting thoughts you might be experiencing.

4.Remember hurt is temporary in love.

 Remember that the hurt is temporary. 

When any relationship ends, it’s easy to feel as though we’ll mourn forever. But the reality is that simply isn’t true. The way you feel during a relationship’s termination is temporary, and the self-doubt you may experience is completely unfounded.

  • Any feelings of doubt or negativity stem from insecurity, sadness, and fear. They do not stem from your actual experiences, and they are not an accurate reflection of who you are or what you deserve.

6. Focus on today.

                                          Focus on today.

 

You aren’t going to move past the hurt feelings overnight, and you’re not going to find the perfect relationship overnight. All you can do is take one day at a time. Focus on feeling better today, and little by little you will. Don’t worry about moving on or finding a new relationship until you’ve adequately gotten through the hard times and the hurt.

Do little things for yourself each day to feel good about yourself and confident in your worth.

Don’t try to rush any part of the process. All you can do is work on yourself today and trust that you’ll be ready for the next relationship when the time comes.

7. Don’t lose hope.

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 When a relationship has ended, you may still hope that you’ll be able to fix things – that the person you cared about will realize his or her errors, and work on learning to love and respect you. Eventually, you’ll realize that that person will not change. But when that happens, it’s important not to lose hope altogether. You simply need to convert that hope into hope for the future. You’ll realize that you want to move on, and at some point you’ll hope you can live a happier and more fulfilling life now that that person is out of your life.

8. Look forward 

 Look forward to the future. love 1

Though it may be difficult to see in the moment, you’re ultimately setting yourself up for greater happiness and fulfillment in future relationships by ending an unhealthy one. You recognized that the previous relationship was unhealthy and unfulfilling, and you made the right decision to get out of it. Once you move on from the hurt, you’ll feel happier, more vibrant, and you’ll open yourself to the better relationship that you deserve.

9. You deserve happiness.

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 If you’re recovering from a relationship in which you were not loved or respected, you may have internalized a lot of the suffering that stemmed from that relationship. Perhaps you might even doubt the fact that you deserve to be happy. But the truth is you do deserve to be happy – everyone does. And you also deserve someone who will make you feel good about yourself.

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